A guy I barely know critiqued me at a party recently. “You haven’t suffered enough to feel intense passion,” he said. “Your life has been too happy, too easy.” I didn’t want to get into a debate about whether my life has been too happy and easy, so in my reply I didn’t mention my divorce or the time I was shot or the grueling poverty I endured for 18 years. “So you’re saying,” I told him, “that suffering is the only way you can acquire passion? I don’t agree. Have you ever raised a child? Have you ever been in love with someone who incited you to make radical changes in your life? Have you ever worked on a creation for many years and then submitted it to be judged by thousands of people? I have.” I’m letting you know about this, Sagittarius, because I predict you’ll soon be offered an experience like those I named — adventures that have the potential to build intense passion without requiring you to suffer.
There’s a better than even chance that you’re about to embark on a Summer of Love. To improve your odds even more, meditate on the following questions. 1. What qualities do you look for in a lover that you would benefit from developing more fully in yourself? 2. What do you think are your two biggest delusions about the way love works? 3. Is there anything you can do to make yourself more lovable? 4. Is there anything you can do to be more loving? 5. Are you willing to deal with the fact that any intimate relationship worth pursuing will inevitably evoke the most negative aspects of both partners — and require both partners to heal their oldest wounds?
- rob brezsny, realastrology.com
